Long Ago Friends

As I'm sure is the way, over the last twenty years of marriage, both Flyfour and I have had many friends and co-workers, who for one reason or another we haven't kept in touch with and to be fair they also haven't kept in touch with us!

These are people who meant a lot to us, at one point in our lives. People that we shared meals with and had inside jokes with. We went to each other's weddings, to mutual friends weddings, we celebrated births and new jobs and then just one day you realise they aren't a part of your life any more.

I was thinking about some friends that fell into this category a few days ago when I realised I couldn't remember the name of their child.  The name of their cat? Yup, that was solidly in my head but their child, a child whose christening we'd been to? A child whose nappy I'd changed on more than one occasion?

Gone.

At least I suppose, I could remember if it was a boy or a girl...

I realised that with Social media this is going to be a thing of the past unless like me you tend to call your children by nicknames online. I actually have friends who don't know my children's real names and Dan Jon thinks it's hilarious that one of my friends calls him Dan Jon and is sure we are winding her up when we call him by his first name rather than his nickname.

I, of course, hunted out the friends whose child I couldn't remember the name of. We were friends before Facebook was a thing, but I knew they'd be on there.

They were.

And the name of the cat that I could so firmly remember?

Yeah, that was their daughter's name.

I think I've just worked out why we're no longer friends.